How to understand if it's time to start worrying

When I was young, I got into a romance that impacted me in an odd way. I loved this guy, so I relied too much on living through the romantic experience despite feeling constantly on edge in this relationship.

It was like a rollercoaster – we had mind-blowing moments together when we laughed, kissed, and I felt happier than ever. But after that, we fell into the abyss of arguing about things we couldn’t agree on, including when I must spend time with him instead of my friends or when I must be ready to finally sleep with him (by that time, I was 14 years old, so… I clearly wasn’t ready).

Time passed, and all the arguing eventually led to our breakup. Looking back, I never regret leaving this man behind. Yes, it was unpleasant to admit that all my hopes and dreams about us would never come true. But if I could go back in time, I would make the same decision.

After that, I got a bit smarter and hopefully wiser. I started looking at the red flags in relationships, choosing the man who was willing to change the things that didn’t work for us. Sometimes, I had to change something within myself, too. And this is exactly how a healthy relationship must work.

So, dear women, if you find yourself in a situation where you feel trapped, drained, and unhappy with your partner, it may be a sign that you are in a toxic relationship. Toxic relationships can be damaging to your mental and emotional well-being, and it's important to recognize the signs early on.

Here are five signs that you may be in a toxic relationship:

1. Lack of Trust

Trust is the foundation of any healthy relationship. If you find yourself constantly questioning your partner's actions or feeling like they are not being honest with you, it may be a sign of a toxic relationship. Trust issues can lead to feelings of insecurity and anxiety, which can take a toll on your mental health.

2. Constant Criticism

In a healthy relationship, partners support and uplift each other. However, in a toxic relationship, criticism is constant and can be destructive. If your partner is always putting you down, belittling your accomplishments, or making you feel inadequate, it may be a sign of a toxic dynamic.

3. Control and Manipulation

A toxic partner may try to control every aspect of your life, from who you spend time with to what you wear. They may use manipulation tactics to get their way, such as guilt-tripping or gaslighting. If you feel like you are constantly walking on eggshells or have to tiptoe around your partner's moods, it may be a sign of a toxic relationship.

4. Lack of Communication

Communication is key in any relationship, and a lack of open and honest communication can be a red flag. If you find that you and your partner are unable to have meaningful conversations or resolve conflicts in a healthy way, it may be a sign of a toxic relationship. Ignoring issues or sweeping them under the rug can lead to resentment and further damage the relationship.

5. Feeling Drained and Unhappy

One of the biggest signs of a toxic relationship is how it makes you feel. If you constantly feel drained or anxious when you are with your partner, it may be a sign that the relationship is toxic. Your relationship should bring you joy, support, and fulfillment, not constant stress and negativity.

If you recognize any of these signs in your relationship, it may be time to reassess and consider seeking help.

Remember, you deserve to be in a healthy and supportive relationship that uplifts you and makes you feel valued. Trust your instincts and prioritize your well-being!

Sincerely yours,

          Lubov Leonova

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P.S. If you discovered yourself in toxic relationship, please do not hesitate to consult a professional. There are plenty of relationship and mental health coaches or counselors who can help you find the best strategy to restore your mental and emotional well-being!